Where the Heart Is? ~ Part 6 ~

July 20, 2011 at 2:20 pm (WSGD Newes) (, , , , , , , , , , , , , , , )

Where the Heart Is?

~ Part 6 ~

Ephesians 4:25-27 (Emphasis mine)

Therefore, stripping off falsehood, let everyone speak truth with his neighbor, because we are intimately related to each other as parts of a body. Be angry, but don’t sin – don’t let the sun go down before you have dealt with the cause of your anger; otherwise you leave room for the Adversary.

We will be doing an “exercise” of how to “go to where the heart is” using the above scripture. This scripture has been used in various ways and been both misinterpreted and not. I love the CJB rendition or translation because it gives the clearest or best Hebraic translation. Which is the language our Savior spoke (Yeshua – Jesus) and Paul the writer of Ephesians. Though they spoke Greek and Hebrew – they thought like a Hebrew. Most translations stop at “don’t let the sun go down on your anger” and jumps immediately to why (the Adversary). Look closely at the wording after “Be angry, but don’t sin.” I pray the wording leaps off at you in a keen understanding in your heart. Lets first define sin. What is a sin?

  • A wrong action of one measured against the correct action.
  • missing a target or mark aimed for
  • a twisted action – not straight
  • something said, thought, or done that trespasses; is faulty; full of guilt; that strays from the truth or love (deceptive); rebellious or revolting; spiteful, jealous, envious, unkind, hateful.

Wow! That can cover a broad range of things and it could be a whole lot of work to not sin – especially when angry or hurt. Most anger is hurt as a boundary. In other words: “You have hurt me and can come no further in doing so.” – most anger if it had a “voice” this is what it would “say”. (Putting it nicely 🙂 )

As a child I was taught by Sunday school lessons and my elders that the “sin” of being angry in this scripture was to let the sun go down without resolving a fight with someone. To the point of even saying “sorry” even if you didn’t mean it, and this action would keep “the devil” from “getting in” on the fight. Needless to say there were so many holes in this perception of this verse you could use it as a colander to strain noodles with!

First of all God does not honor a falsehood. If you say (with your mouth) “sorry” but don’t mean it (in your heart) – it’s a lie. The Adversary then runs in to fill the heart with resentment to add to the deception and clarity then gets a bit “cloudy”. So that can not be “it”. Lets re-read the words exactly.

“Don’t let the sun go down before you have dealt with the cause of your anger.”

This is a clear indication of a –  “Examine me, God, and know my heart; test me, and know my thoughts. See if there is in me any hurtful way, and lead me along the eternal way.” Psalms 139:23-24 – moment. An invitation to invite God into a hurt or pain that comes bubbling up as anger. This is how we deal with the cause of our anger.

I’m angry often because of me and my “unmissed target” or unfulfilled expectation. What I perceived as an injury done by another was really my expectation for someone else to do something that can not be expected of anyone but God or myself. Such as:

  • Expecting someone to “read” me or just know how I feel.
  • Expecting someone or something to make me feel good.
  • Expecting someone to think like I think and therefore behave accordingly.
  • Expecting someone to make me more important than is proper.
  • Expecting someone to react or behave in a way that I feel is “right”.

Expectations often allow no room for uniqueness and differences. This is NOT the way God make us or anything on this planet, He made us and everything vastly unique and full of variety! Sometimes my anger is really at myself and my own lacks but I project them onto; circumstances, God, or others. Its the cause of our anger that we are to say “O God – show me the truth here.” before that sun goes down (or daily). It is also that we own our anger, no one can make you or give you anger. Resolution is sometimes not realistic after many sunsets at times – at least not in terms of two individuals “making peace”.

This is not to say that trying to resolve a fight isn’t a good thing to do. If you can do this from a full heart of humility, kindness, and love – then do so! The verse, though, is speaking about the heart (within) where anger can become a sin. It’s not a sin to have differences and conflicts with others. When someone speaks lies, it is not a sin to speak the truth, which stands in opposition to a lie. This often is a source of conflict, and it’s not a sin to stand within it, rather its a sin NOT to. Yet there is a difference between standing against a person and standing against what they do, say, or believe! The truth always invites relationship, but it takes two to have one.

Proverbs 27:17

Just as iron sharpens iron,  a person sharpens the character of his friend.

Proverbs 3:11-12

My son, don’t despise Adonai’s (the Lord’s) discipline or resent his reproof; for Adonai corrects those he loves like a father who delights in his son.

Proverbs is full of all sorts of verses that make no sense if confrontation and differences are a sin! They are not! They CAN be – if done out of any of the things mentioned earlier, as sin. This points only to our need to diligently “check our heart at God’s door” in all things. Only God can tell us what is sin within the framework of our anger. Anger itself is NOT a sin – God is and has and will get angry – but He never sins! Follow Him! To follow we often have to remember He must be the Leader – Guide – One in FRONT! If we invite God into our anger – then we have walked this scripture out from within (the heart). With the attitude of Psalm 139:23-24 – the Adversary will NEVER “get in”! Keep in mind its the attitude of the heart that counts NOT the “routine” – this is the difference between relationship and religion!

Colossians 3:12-16 (Emphasis mine – Note: ties into this and all previous parts to the series)

Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with feelings of compassion and with kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with one another; if anyone has a complaint against someone else, forgive him. Indeed, just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must forgive.

Above all these, clothe yourselves in love, which binds everything together perfectly; and let the shalom (peace) which comes from the Messiah be your heart’s decisionmaker, for this is why you were called to be part of a single Body. And be thankful – let the Word of the Messiah, in all its richness, live in you, as you teach and counsel each other in all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude to God in your hearts.

Its always important to keep scripture in context. The preceding and proceeding verses usually point to or connect to the ones in the middle so to speak. Notice the 1st verse in our selection for this piece.

“Therefore, stripping off falsehood, let everyone speak truth with his neighbor, because we are intimately related to each other as a part of a body.”

How does this connect to the ‘”more famous” or quoted verses we’ve just covered? Here is where to begin…where the heart is:

What is falsehood? Who’s my neighbor? What does it mean when it says intimately related? Intimate is a very deep word – not casual – why? Now…you ask your Shepherd to lead you into understanding – this is walking with Yeshua (Jesus) – this is where the heart is. 🙂 Where one finds treasure of unrustable, unstealable worth! They lay themselves down upon your heart – like jewels soldered upon the precious metals of the heart and become part of the tapestry of Heaven!


Where the Heart Is?  ~ Part 7 ~ coming soon! 🙂

Grace and peace in Yeshua the Messiah

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